What's the best way to divorce-proof a marriage?
You have to go into the relationship with your expectations under control and the sense that you and your intended are on the same page with your goals and desires. Otherwise, you and your spouse will eventually find yourself on the road to disaster and a probable divorce.
So what are the most important things to ask your intended spouse?
How will the division of labor work in the household?
How important is sharing the chores to a couple's relationship? According to research, it ranks just after faithfulness and a healthy sex life on the scale of importance in happy marriages.
Have a frank discussion about what you each see as your strengths and your individual roles when it comes to contributing to the household chores. If you don't have a plan that allows you both to contribute fairly equally, it can lead to conflicts. The person doing more may feel used and disappointed, and that can lead to nagging that makes the other person unhappy and miserable.
Are children part of your goals for life?
This question can make or break a relationship, but it's absolutely something that should be discussed before marriage. If a couple goes into a marriage with drastically different ideas on the issue of children, both are likely to end up frustrated and disappointed. There's no one right answer to the question, but you both have to be on the same page.
What are your beliefs about money?
Money conflicts cause 21% of divorces, so this is a big area of concern for any couple. You need to talk over a variety of different money issues, including:
In addition, this is also a good time to lay all your finances on the table, so that neither of you is blindsided by any hidden debts the other person is carrying.
What happens if the marriage doesn't work?
Use this opportunity to discuss the idea of a prenuptial agreement. Agreeing on the terms of your divorce before you ever get married might not be romantic, but it does allow you to craft a plan that will give you both an "out" if things don't work. Since you're creating the plan while you are still happy with each other, you're both apt to be fair and reasonable, which can take the bite out of a divorce if one does come to pass.
If you do decide to draft a prenuptial agreement that will protect you both in the event of a divorce, talk an experienced family and divorce attorney as soon as possible.
Share12 September 2018
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